How To Cope With Suicidal Thoughts

If you’re reading this right now, I hope that you’re okay. If you’re not okay, and are having suicidal thoughts and feeling hopeless, know that it’s okay to not be okay, and that you are not alone. I don’t know if you have any triggers, or how your current mental state is, so I’ll attempt…

Impulsive Spending – How To Manage The Problem

Impulsive spending is something many individuals with BPD struggle with. The moment something appealing catches our eyes, we can’t help but be tempted to purchase the item. And more often than not, we do without plan or consideration of the outcome. Some may think that impulsive spending is no big deal, especially if they have…

Connect With What Makes You More Than Borderline

One of the biggest issues we face, as individuals with borderline personality disorder, is not knowing who we really are. Many of us find ourselves feeling completely lost, with no sense of self or self-direction; and while we may find some sense of identity through our borderline side, our true identity remains undiscovered.

The Canvas: A Self Management Tool

When we experience unpleasant emotions, we fight to make them disappear. Sometimes they just need to be expressed and released in a healthy manner, and other times they need to be replaced with positive feelings by focusing our thoughts on things to feel good about…

Estrogen, Progesterone & BPD

Estrogen and progesterone are 2 of the major hormones that are involved in the menstrual cycle and pregnancy. They are also present in many of the types of contraception available, together or just progesterone alone. As well as having their various functions and uses in the female reproductive system, these hormones also influence your mood,…

My Thoughts On Motherhood As A Borderline Mama

In July 2015, I gave birth to my baby girl. According to the doctor, she already had her eyes wide open as I pushed her out of me, she was already observing her new surroundings. When the umbilical cord was cut, she gave the midwife a mischievous look. I remember the midwife saying, “She looks…

Healing Your Broken Identity

In the most recent Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders (DSM-5), the symptoms of borderline personality disorder have been categorised under impairments in personality functioning and pathological personality traits. One of the subcategories of impairments in personality functioning is self functioning. This has been divided into two further subcategories, identity and self direction. In this blog post, I’ll be reviewing impairments in identity, and how to heal them.

BPD Guide For Kids: Age 2-5

In the blog post “How To Explain BPD To Your Kids (And Why You Should)”, I wrote examples of how you could explain borderline personality disorder to your children. This post is a simple guide to help explain the disorder to your toddler or preschooler.

How To Explain BPD To Your Kids (And Why You Should)

It isn’t easy to explain what borderline personality disorder is, and how it affects you. But while you suffer from this mental disorder, it is important to talk to your loved ones about it, especially your children. As a parent, you influence your child’s development not only through your parenting style, but through your every day behaviour. Your child will observe and copy what you do, so it is essential to explain to them why you behave the way you do…

A Source Of Comfort & Control

While going through the stages of recovery, we may establish a healthy source of comfort and control, to make up for the control we internally lack. It helps us get through the bad days, and stay on track with our recovery…

Are You Uncomfortable With Happiness?

Happiness can be found in a lot of things in life. But what about when life has kicked you down, and you forget how to be happy? When the emotion reveals itself, it may be accompanied by a puzzling pain. You may start to tear up, or feel overwhelmed. Perhaps you ask yourself, “Why do I feel this way?”. Or, “What am I suppose to feel?”…